Conclusion
One in four women have been sexually molested as children, one in nine boys. The devastation that molestation causes in a person’s life is difficult to comprehend, but a recent statistic put forth by a doctor in Vancouver, B.C. who runs a drug rehabilitation program for homeless persons, is at once horrifying and sobering: every single one of his patients was molested as a child. All possible victims need to be protected from their abuser, and all incidents need to be reported to the police for proper investigation to provide the foundation for that protection.
Facing the possibility that one’s spiritual leader, whether it be a priest or a new-age guru, is a fraud (or worse) is never easy. The immediate and most common reaction is denial, with subsequent fanatical clinging to ones’ previous beliefs. It can be akin to a life and death struggle to face disillusionment. Many will not go down that path, and prefer the feelings generated (or should I say, denied) by ignorance equalling bliss.
Being deceived or defrauded by one’s spiritual leader does not equate to one’s spiritual experiences being invalidated. The common misapprehension is that if one’s teacher is revealed to be false, then everything one has ever believed in must also be false, and hence, the looming realization one’s life is also meaningless. Although proving eventually to be unfounded (in fact it is often the sign of the real birth of meaningfulness in one’s life) for the more fortunate (many cannot take this step), this very real fear, in addition to the shame associated with every type of abuse, accounts for why people feel they cannot come forward, why they cannot seek justice, and why they may have difficulty terminating an abusive relationship.
Forgiveness or confession of a sin is not the same as ensuring it will not happen again. Just as one would neither give matches to a pyromaniac, nor whiskey to an alcoholic, one should not give a sex offender access to more victims.
Regarding the Vatican and the Pope – this time represents the opportunity to make sweeping, radical and necessary changes. In common parlance, “What would Jesus do?” He would protect the innocent and help them recover from their abuse. He would not lie to protect his reputation or that of others, and he would ensure abusers never harm anyone ever again. Change is happening within the Catholic church; the challenge for the Pope is to ride the wave or be drowned in it.












